Should we attempt to have the same standard of discourse internally as with outgroup criti...

Yes

We should be more gracious towards critics

We should be more polite towards outgroup critics

"Hugboxing" makes me feel uncomfortable

We insufficiently push back against inaccurate criticism

Depends on the critic -- is the criticism arguably in good faith? Would the response be punching down?

Should we attempt to have the same standard of discourse internally as with outgroup critics?